‘Whac-A-Mole’, a Mirror of the Conditioned Mind!
Maybe you don’t want to jeopardize a relationship when you feel you need to stay connected, even when there isn’t a deeper alignment with your integrity, vision or how they are showing up to meet you. For me, if something is at risk, and I don’t have the space for self-inquiry, I may feel confused, self-judgment, contracted or disconnected. That’s not fun!
What does it feel like when you have clarity, speak what is most important to you and hear what is most important to those you are in conversation with?
In my experience, I feel in integrity and spacious. My heart is open and receptive; even when others don’t agree or feel triggered by what I share.
Do you notice if you change your inner experience based on whom you are talking with such as clients, family, or business partners? If you said yes, what might be at stake? Is it the potential loss of a client, disconnection with someone you love, jeopardizing a promotion, or the protection of an identity you cling to, consciously or unconsciously, in order to feel protected?
Here’s how it works: There is a playing board with 6 holes and a hammer. The object is to ‘whack’ the mole with the hammer when its head pops up. It all happens at warp speed. A mole pops up, grabs your attention and by the time you’ve whacked, and usually missed, it pops up somewhere else.
The strategy of “Whac-A-Mole” is not much different than the strategy of the mind! The conditioned mind is constantly pulling us in a new direction. In the midst of this endless pursuit we forget the ground on which we stand and what is actually most important to us. The mind is influenced by many factors.
One of the conditioned mind’s tricks is expressed through the view we hold of the world, for example:
Are you getting the flavor of what I’m talking about?
This tendency to ‘whac-our-life’ in pursuit of meeting the demands of the conditioned mind doesn’t allow us to rest into just ‘being’. When I move from a place of internal rest I resource wisdom rather than conditioned mind.
What do I mean by internal rest? For me it looks like growing my awareness around my mind’s particular language and patterns so I can witness how it speaks. The resting comes when I learn not to whack but to listen, sit back and move from a deeper place.
Rather than furiously whack away I now have the space to create more conscious conversations, speak what is true in a loving way, experience greater freedom, connectedness and ease.
Do you have any whacking stories you want to share?