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In this article, you’ll find the five core values of evolutionary leadership. We’ll look at what are they and start the conversation about how to activate these superpowers within ourselves and our teams.
1. Self-Awareness & Mindfulness
2. Leadership & Connection
3. Power-With (vs. Power-Over)
4. Vulnerability
5. Befriending the Shadows
6. Embodied Wisdom
What does it mean to engage in Revealing Wisdom’s Executive Coaching program? Here is a high level overview of the phases that one may traverse when coaching with me.
PHASE 1: Leadership & Presence
PHASE 2: Power, Vulnerability & Relationship Skills
PHASE 3: Befriending the Shadows: Integrate Your Hidden Powers
All coaching is based on the client’s goals and vision so I weave in these areas when they sreve the overall desired outcomes for each leader, or executive team.
The embodied leadership path is an invitation to integrate and descend from our heads into our hearts, and into the ground of our being. It’s a practice of embodying the fullest expression of who we are. As embodied leaders, we recognize the intelligence of nature that lives within and outside of us as an unparalleled primordial source from which we access vitality, life force, the power of nurturing, and self-healing wisdom.
Leadership and power has been a passion of mine since I was young. Not because I felt inspired by the leaders and their use of power, but because I felt disillusioned. I knew there had to be another way of engaging with power dynamics that was based on connection, inclusion, and respect, rather than reactivity, control, and self-appointed ownership.
There is a growing movement of awakening exploding on the planet. This rise in consciousness is catalyzing a new prototype of leaders who are poised to express a wholehearted and integrative approach through every aspect of their lives.
In this article, we’ll explore how power is one of our most influential energy sources. We’ll delve into two paradigms of power: power-over and power-with. We’ll look at how power -over and power-with influence three categories of relationship:
Personal power — in relationship to ourselves
Interpersonal power — in relationship with others
Collective power — in relationship to a larger whole or system
I’ll share common examples of what it looks like to give, take and withhold power. Power-with is a consensual and integrated expression of power. It’s founded upon a commitment to conscious leadership through self-awareness and personal responsibility.
As more conscious leaders find one another, networks of change agents and heart warriors expand. Together, we are birthing a new world. And given the chaotic and destabilizing times, we’re in globally, this revolutionary movement is imperative. In this article, we will review power as a form of energy and unpack the paradigm shift of power-over to power-with in more detail. We’ll also explore:
Two polarities of power: dominance and submission — this will include examining the difference between submission and surrender
How to distinguish abusive power from healthy power dynamics — this will include how these dynamics show up in our daily interpersonal struggles
Three equalizing ingredients that interrupt the dynamics of power-over and embolden power-with. These are self-awareness, consent, and boundary-setting
Boundary-setting is an important self-care practice. Establishing clear boundaries is necessary to maintain evolutionary, authentic, consensual, and respectful relationships in all domains of life. Boundaries are a form of power. They empower us to express our needs in relationship, whether that’s in our relationship to ourselves or others. Boundaries also offer us a forum to negotiate, using our authentic voice to stand in solidarity with our inner value system.
I have been enjoying a rich life as a leadership consultant and executive coach. It’s deeply satisfying and inspiring to participate in a catalytic movement with leaders who want to access their presence and wisdom as the foundation from which they create and lead. I recently took a significant professional (and personal) leap when I launched my new business, Your Erotic Nature. I’m passionate about this because I know what becomes possible when we know how to access our creative life force of erotic aliveness.
Did you know that your brain and nervous system are constantly looking for protection and connection? We long for relationship, bonding, and intimacy, yet our limbic and reptilian brains scan for threat and safety 24/7. They track for perceived threats for our physical safety, but also for threats to our sense of belonging, self-image, or emotional integrity
What does it mean to be an integrated human? As humans we are incredibly resilient creatures with hearts, longings, fears, anxiety, perseverance and experiences of strong emotions and pain. We are multi-faceted and complex and yet the path to our healing can be very simple. Simple in theory and yet the application may require us to focus and commit to a larger story of our unique self and the collective unfolding.
People are experiencing burn-out and feelings of uncertainty about how to break out of systems that don’t support their individuality, personal rhythm and unique genius. Burn-out occurs across the board from personal, work, family, community and global systems. Changing a system can feel like pouring honey on a winter camping trip – in its frozen form you don’t access the sweetness.
Have you longed for a particular relationship, job, creating a family or a spiritual realization only to discover that after achieving these things you’re still struggling; still not happy? You discover that these accomplishment themselves are not inherently the key to your deeper sense of happiness?
Yesterday I was caught feeling the familiarity and stuckness of a well-worn cycle of longing. This longing has yet to take shape in the practical world. I see glimpses but I don’t abide in this place yet. How often do we sense a longing from deep within and find ourselves gently holding it like an exquisite hummingbird that startles us with her beauty as swiftly as she disappears?
We are all leaders. From executives, parents and teachers to the school bully, leaders of gangs and drug lords. How is that possible? Because every action we take, conscious or unconscious, influences those around us and elicits responses such as love, connectedness, creativity, entitlement, fear and rage.
